Saturday, January 21, 2012

Respect for Husbands

"Respect for a husband is like love is for a wife. It is a catalyst for his confidence and encouragement that he can fulfill his role as provider and leader. Most men question their ability to be everything they need to be for their family. But insecurities become insignificant in a home where a husband feels respect. A wife’s support energizes her man like jet fuel to a booster rocket.

Husbands need the respect and support of their wives. It of course works both ways, as the wife needs to feel the support of her husband. But, respect is huge for a man. A God-fearing husband knows the Lord has placed him in a position of leadership. It is overwhelming sometimes, feeling squeezed by the pressures of life. The last thing a husband needs to feel is distance or distrust from his wife. Her spousal support may be the only thing that is preventing him from giving up.

“He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him, and he must do so in a manner worthy of full respect” (1 Timothy 3:4).

Wives: Do not underestimate how your support sustains your husband. Your affirmation is valuable and powerful for the ongoing success of your husband. Men are not as self-sufficient as they might seem. On the outside we may seem invincible, but on the inside we are needy and desperate for recognition and validation. A man needs to know his wife trusts his decision making and his ability to provide for his family.

Your confidence in him propels his confidence in himself to higher levels. Your belief in your husband builds him up to believe in himself. It is difficult for a man to rise any higher than the opinion of his helpmate. Men long to be built up by their brides. Brag on him in public and affirm him in private. Look to your husband as the leader God has placed in your life.

Pray for him to lead lovingly and wisely. Be patient and don’t usurp his authority when things are not getting done. Trust him to God, for He can handle him much better than your creative consequences. Give him over to God and trust in the accountability of the Almighty. Embrace your husband in the light of eternity. God wants him to grow up and give spiritual leadership. Let him lead—even when it means he fails. Your respect can grow the heart of your husband to love well.

“Give to everyone what you owe them: If you owe taxes, pay taxes; if revenue, then revenue; if respect, then respect; if honor, then honor” (Romans 13:7).

How can I respect my husband in a way that encourages him and also honors the Lord?"

I wish I knew where this came from so that I could give the greatly deserved credit to the writer. How amazing and thought provoking is this? Let's face it.....marriage IS HARD. No matter how strong your relationship is, no matter how long you've been together, no matter if you are rich or poor, kids or no kids.. it's work. Love is a choice. I think it's very easy in the busyness of life to forget things like what is written in this article. I think doing the things written in this article are hard, but to have a successful marriage and to be the wife God has called me to be, I must do them. God commands it. I want my hubby to know I respect and love him no matter what.. very thankful for reminders like this! 


  1. Kassi, this is a wonderful post. Learning how to be married and better serve our men (and less ourselves) is ongoing... It's so easy to fall short and such a challenge to master. My parents recently lead a Love and Respect Bible Study for newly married couples at their church. Brian and I happened to be in town the weekend of the final lesson, so we went. I had read the book throughout our engagement but 2 1/2 years into marriage it struck a whole new, much deeper cord with us. The author, Dr. Eggerichs, goes so far as to say that ultimately our spouses are irrelevant. (Quite a claim!) According to him, marriage is simply a test and a tool to deepen and demonstrate our love and reverence for the Lord.
    Wow. After hearing that I couldn't help but see life in a new light.

  2. We did that study when we were engaged and I have to admit I don't remember a lot of it! Thanks for the reminder, we should go through it again! That statement is awesome... that def. helps to think of things in a whole new light. I wish we lived closer! I think we would have an awesome time together :) Praying for you and your future little one! He/she is SO blessed to have you as a Mama! You will do great!